Proper nutrition and exercising are essential for a complete well being of humans, yes you heard that all before, over and over again in every magazine! It helps us to stay fit and maintain a healthy life, and that’s why we need to eat right and do yoga, pilates, run, or whatever it is that rocks your boat! Ideally though, you want be healthy but also sexually stimulated and satisfied because let’s face it: healthy, fit, toned but with barely there sexlife isn’t a fun picture! So let’s make sure that by “complete wellbeing” we mean sexually happy.
So often it happens that somebody in a relationship wants more action while the other half just wants to sleep. This sort of scenario causes all sorts of disturbances and bickering. But as long as you can identify the problem and not blame each other, but instead work on fixing the problem, then you are on the right track!
Very often, the cause of this mismatched libidos situation is the low libido condition in one of the partners. When overworked, overstressed, overly too much in your head – planning, analyzing, worrying and thinking, then sex is the last thing on your mind. Meditation after work is crucial for fixing the “always thinking head” problem, and must be practiced regularly, as it can really work just as good as cocktails in helping you to relax.
Apart from that, you need to understand female physiology and the factors leading to low libido. If your are the one in the relationship who barely ever thinks about sex, or thinks about shoes or what to have for dinner during the act, then the underlying cause can be hidden in your lifestyle choices. Ask yourself
Are you eating a healthy diet?
Are you getting proper sleep?
Is your job causing you too much stress?
Are you exercising?
Sex is nothing but a function of the human body just like eating, drinking or sleeping. Leading healthy sexual life is equally important and improving the libido should be one of top priorities. Our bodies perform well when we are healthy. So, if you are eating bad food, eating late at night, eating too much sweets or junk, it will show in your figure. When you are not happy with your figure, subconsciously you may despise the way you look and not want to be naked and have sex. Start eating less, choose a good diet, do a cleanse to boost your metabolism and EXERCISE!
If you are overworked, not getting enough sleep, worried all the time about something, overly analytical or just plain tired from the workload of the day -kids, boss or bills– whatever it is that is causing you to lose sleep over, then make it a priority to find ME TIME, the time when everything gets put on hold. You deserve it, you need it for your sanity and health, and everybody else can wait. Your health comes first, before anything or anyone else. One hour a day of ME time – is not a luxury, it’s a must, if you want to be healthy and happy that is. Take a yoga class, exercise at home with a DVD in a room with closed doors, go for a run in a park. Do something physical as it works best to restore that mind body balance.
If you are not exercising enough, as in you wish you were, but you just don’t because you don’t have time, don’t have time right now but will in January, don’t think you need to – then get on it now!
Exercising is not only for those who wants to lose weight, sculpt or tone. Another great benefit is that it actually revs up your sex drive and can fix the low libido problem! Multiple studies were done on the subject and all found a strong correlation between physical activity and sexual behaviour and frequency of sexual activity. Physical endurance, muscle tone, and body composition all improve sexual functioning (Frauman, 1982, Krucoff & Krucoff, 2000). Additionally, exercise activates the sympathetic nervous system, encouraging blood-flow to the genital region. Research shows that even low levels of physical activity tend to elevate mood and help keep “equipment” in better working condition (Krucoff & Krucoff, 2000; Stanten & Yeager, 2003).
To get the “equipment” in tip top shape, and by equipment we don’t refer to men, you should absolutely find that hour to dedicate to exercising. If the gain is mindblowing Os, then you most definitely can put everything on hold for an hour a day. Better yet, to make the absolute most of your exercise time, follow a workout that will not only work on your buns, thighs and abs, but will make sure the “equipment” is not neglected either. Kama is a great workout for helping you get in touch with your sexual core. Some Yoga and Pilates moves target this region as well.
Whatever you choose, just stick to it, and next time your are trying to find an excuse to skip that class or eat ice cream on the couch instead of your after dinner run, remember that the quality of your love life is up to you!