So what happens to your relationship once you have a baby? Most young parents say the same thing – if before you could spend the entire Sunday in bed indulging in each other’s company, well apparently after the baby everything changes. It’s no longer about you, it’s no longer about sex and it’s no longer about looking good and staying fit. But there has got to be a way to trick this “natural progression”, which may seem inevitable at first.
So I decided to ask around and feature each month a new mom of the month who appears to be ahead of the game and find out how she does it. Introducing this month’s Hot Mama of the Month Carol and her interview below:
How long have you been in your current relationship and how old is your baby/kids?
I’ve been with my fiancé for about a decade now. We have four boys, 9, 4, 2 and 9 weeks old.
What is your profession and do you work?
I’ve been off work for over 4 years now, in order to be home to raise my boys; I feel very lucky that I’m able to do this. I do however miss being in the workforce, so soon as my youngest starts kindergarten I plan to look for work. Ideally this would be in the fashion industry. I’ve been doing some TV personal work here and there throughout the years.
Are you happy with how you look? Is there before and after baby/kids difference?
Overall I feel ‘okay’ with my current post baby body, some days more then others lol. My body definitely isn’t what it used to be, but that’s to be expected. I am looking forward to getting back into the gym in a weeks time and Kama movements would also be a great addition to getting fit and tighter again.
What makes you feel the sexiest? As in what kind of rituals do you have for looking and feeling good that you absolutely cannot live without?
Most days I’ll take a couple minutes to put a little makeup on, always mascara and some pink cheeks, a total must in my books. I don’t fit into any old jeans…yet, as the muffin top is still present, but wearing some tight jeggings makes me feel sexy, opposed to baggy track pants daily. I wouldn’t want to loose all sense of fashion due to being an at home mom. Any chance I get to go meet a girlfriend for a bite to eat or a drink or having a date with my man, I jump at the opportunity. I can then get dressed up and put a full face of makeup on, it makes me feel hot and sexy. Adding a pair of stiletto heels to the outfit completes the feeling that a mom can still be sexy.
What is your motivation to make an effort to look good? Some married women/women with kids stop trying.
I know if I’m making the little extra effort to look good, I”m going to feel good! My man is hot and I want to look hot for him. I wanna keep it spicy. Nothing feels better then at the end of the day, he comes home and tells me how cute I look or something. I really try not to get stuck in a rut. I know that could and does easily happen when being at home all day long, entertaining little guys.
What is your weekly workout routine?
As of lately, it only consists of running around after the little guys and running up and down our homes stairs. After watching the Kama Pinup abs workout video, I’m going to literally start that today. I’m excited to try it but a little afraid the sexy movements might get me pregnant again :p Starting next week I’ll start back to the gym 3 times a week, then eventually 4-5 times a week doing weight training.
Do you find your sexual appetite has changed after giving birth?
Yes, I do. But I don’t want it to lol. It is coming back though and I believe that’s all linked into feeling better about myself and my body, for sure. I’d try a chocolate aphrodisiac but that would just make me gain weight, don’t need that.
How do you de-stress and get into the mood?
For this to happen, all kids must be in bed, sleeping, snoring, totally out cold. (Having all the dishes done to, helps, sad isn’t it?!) Nothing tenses me up more then having a crying baby in the crib while mommy and daddy are trying to get it on.
What was the most pleasant surprise he ever came home to?
I like to ‘pretend’ I can’t find my clothes and come down the stairs naked to say “hi honey, how was work?” as if everything’s normal, that always put smile on his face and makes us both giggle, that with a combination of dinner being ready.
In your opinion, what are some don’ts in a relationship that kill passion? For example, some believe that each partner must ideally have their own bathroom and what happens in there should always be a mystery.
Yes, PLEASE CLOSE THE DOOR WHILE YOU’RE GOING TO THE BATHROOM! A total must! Also cell phones, constant texting or BB Messaging at home can kill it, that time should be spent with family and your partner.