So what happens to your relationship once you have a baby? Most young parents say the same thing – if before you could spend the entire Sunday in bed indulging in each other’s company, well apparently after the baby everything changes. It’s no longer about you, it’s no longer about sex and it’s no longer about looking good. Now that you’ve had kids your love life resembles your work life with a schedule that cannot be changed, deadlines that cannot be broken and responsibilities that don’t allow any time for relaxation. What intimacy or Sundays in bed?? You no longer know what that means. Heels, manicures and facials are also no longer words in your vocabulary. But there has gotta be a way to trick this “natural progression”, which may seem inevitable at first.
So since I am not yet a mom myself, I decided to ask around and feature each month a new mom of the month who appears to be ahead of the game and find out how she does it. Introducing this month’s Sexy Mama of the Month Anastasia and her interview below:
How long have you been in your current relationship and how old is your baby/kids?
We are in a relationship about 10 years, but married only 4. My baby girl is 3.5 month
What is your profession and do you work?
I ‘m a professional dancer. Since my daughter was born i was dreaming about starting to dance again..and yeahh I’m back in 3 month after delivery
Are you happy with how you look? Is there before and after baby/kids difference?
Of course the body has changed a bit, but not much. I was trying to eat healthy food during my pregnancy. When I say healthy I mean not much bread and fast food, but there was always one yummy thing … mmm… like a daily MUST – CHOCOLATE , that’s the only thing that i can’t live without! So overall I’m happy with my look before, during and after pregnancy.
What makes you feel the sexiest? As in what kind of rituals do you have for looking and feeling good that you absolutely cannot live without?
My moves. When I’m dancing it makes me feel the sexiest. Dancing has been my passion since i was a little girl. It is my favorite thing to do as well as to wear my sexy clothes. This was before and still stays the same even after the baby was born. It’s a must for me to go out sometimes, to dance, to make myself and people who are watching me dancing – happy.
What is your motivation to make an effort to look good? Some married women/women with kids stop trying.
First of all it is to prove to myself that even with the baby u still can look perfect. Second reason is my husband. He is so proud of me that I was able to stay in shape and look so good. My girl is not a good sleeper during the day, but 30 minutes work for me. I can clean the house or do some exercises while she is sleeping. You still have to find time just for yourself, to visit the spa or meet with the girls. It is still possible. You are a mom 24/7 but it doesn’t mean that u have to forget about everything that you loved before. Advice to all mommies – keep trying! It’s a new totally different life – and it is just the beginning.
What is your weekly workout routine?
In the near future I will try to return to my basic schedule with dancing in the clubs (I am a go go dancer) but for now I’m dancing with my baby girl, almost every day for at least an hour in front of TV. It’s so much fun!!!
Do you find your sexual appetite has changed after giving birth?
NO it did NOT! It’s just a little bit different. But I love changes so it’s kind of like a new level of having sex for me. You spend a lot of time during the day with baby and at the end of the day you are tired, but u still want to have some beautiful moments with your hubby. Just two of you. And when the baby is finally sleeping those moments are coming.
How do you de-stress and get into the mood?
U start with appreciating everything that has happened. For me even taking a shower or having a glass of good wine is destressing. It is like being in heaven, it really is! All mommies know
What was the most pleasant surprise he ever came home to?
Oh I love to treat my hubby! But the most pleasant surprise for him was the 2011 Valentines day. I order his favorite sushi and served it to him on myself when i was fully naked. He definitely enjoyed the combination of the beautiful body ans sushi. That was the best experience of sushi in his life ever that’s for sure!
In your opinion, what are some don’ts in a relationship that kill passion? For example, some believe that each partner must ideally have their own bathroom and what happens in there should always be a mystery.
Any” Dont’s” can kill it. To keep the passion in your life u should avoid the ”Dont’s” and always trust your partner.