Two years ago on this day I wanted more than anything in the world to get pregnant and become a mother. One year ago I just couldn’t wait for my baby bump to grow so I could finally become a mother. Today I can proudly say that yes, I am a mother.
Mother – this word means so much. Only now I can understand and appreciate what our moms have gone through, and only now I get it why this word is so important, powerful and beautiful. While I can honestly say that this journey hasn’t been easy, in fact it has been the hardest thing I’ve done, I have to admit I really am blessed. Motherhood has been simplified for me, thanks to the wonderful system of support called family. Having a part time nanny doesn’t hurt either. And I cannot even imagine what I would do without my biggest supporter, my other half, thanks to whom we can afford to have the lifestyle that we have and thanks to whom I can catch up on much needed sleep in the mornings. In addition, we have all the modern day comforts that make mothering so much easier, such as diapers, dishwasher, washing machines. (My mother didn’t have any of that in her days and had to do a LOT more with her hands that hold the baby). I have only one child, not five. I live in a country that takes care of mothers giving them a full year off work dedicated to motherhood, unlike USA or other parts of the world. I am healthy and well and so is my child. Yet, I still find it hard. But really, I have no right to complain!
I cannot possibly imagine what it must be like if you are a mother to a newborn who is a single mother. Its twice the work, twice the stress, twice the tears. Not having that person who can hold your hand when you give birth and be that shoulder to cry on when your baby won’t stop crying for hours must be hard.
I also really feel for those mothers who don’t have the luxury of staying at home with their newborn and have to rush back to work. It must be excruciatingly difficult to leave your sweet smelling, cuddly bundle of joy with someone else while you sit in the office away from your baby. Especially when this bundle of joy still breastfeeds, and instead of looking into his loving eyes during feeds, you get to look at the cold walls of a bathroom stall at work while pumping.
I can’t imagine what it must be like if you have more than one child and no help. Where you have to manage to feed, burp, pump, bathe, take kids to school and gymnastics, all the while trying to cook for the entire family, grocery shop, clean the house, pay bills, keep up all the doctor appointments, cater to the husband’s needs and somehow in between all of this find some time for yourself to look decent, or at least clean. Whoever said that males are the stronger species must have been on something!
It must be very hard to nurture and raise a baby when it is just you with no family to lean on. Even though, sometimes they come with LOTS of advice, I don’t know what I would do without grandmothers who come and babysit, bring yummy home cooked goodies, and sometimes even agree to take the baby for a night, so you and your husband can have a much needed night of peaceful sleep and romance.
I’ve only dealt with a sick child once, and it was just a very bad cold and nothing more, and even then I almost lost my mind when her fever hit 39. I can’t even imagine the strength and patience that one must possess to care for a child that was born sick or has some illness that requires extra care. Or what if the mother is the ill one? How hard it must be to take care of somebody else who needs so much of your energy, which you just don’t have because your body is too weak? I don’t know, but whoever has gone through something like that probably becomes an exceptionally tough human being.
Where there is no struggle, there is no strength, and a mother is somebody who goes through struggles every day, some small, some large, but all in the name of love. A heart that is filled with love is capable of magical things, and only when you become a mother you realize how much you can really love somebody and how strong you can actually be. I admire all mothers out there and want to wish all of you Happy Mother’s Day, and may your loved ones make you feel like the most cherished mother in the world on this wonderful spring holiday! <3